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Find a therapist who can offer non-judgmental support and guidance for individuals and relationships practising alternative forms of consensual non-monogamy, exploring issues such as communication, boundaries, jealousy, and relationship agreements within a framework of ethical and respectful engagement.

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The connection and therapeutic alliance to one's therapist is the most important factor for a successful outcome. Our in-house psychologists will help you find the right match based on your individual background and needs.Our psychologists, psychotherapists, and counsellors offer therapy in English, German, and more than 90 other languages. They are available to meet you online or in person and can help you with depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, and more.It's Complicated is built and owned by therapists. Since starting in Berlin 2019 we have grown organically into an international platform with local therapist communities in cities such as Berlin, Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Lisbon, London, and New York.

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Larisa Kharlanova
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS

Larisa Kharlanova

Larisa Kharlanova

Accreditated Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst
Active Imagination • Couples therapy • Eating disorders • Jungian analysis • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-harm
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS
Active Imagination • Couples therapy • Eating disorders • Jungian analysis • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-harm
$60 / session60
Phnom Penh
Online only
Marina Lwow
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 2 HOURS

Marina Lwow

Marina Lwow

Klinische Psychologin, Psychologische Psychotherapeutin (i.A.) Verhaltenstherapie, Psychologische Beraterin
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • Depression • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-confidence • Trauma
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 2 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • Depression • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-confidence • Trauma
90 / session90
Berlin
Online only
Annina Tonkov
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 2 HOURS

Annina Tonkov

Annina Tonkov

Clinical Psychologist (M.Sc.), Systemic counselor for individuals and couples, Couples and sex counselor, Queer and non-monogamy friendly
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Couples therapy • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Therapy for Expats
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 2 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Couples therapy • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Therapy for Expats
90 / session90
Berlin
Online only
Agnes Trzak, PhD
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Agnes Trzak, PhD

Agnes Trzak, PhD

Heilpraktiker for Psychotherapie
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Asperger's syndrome (AS) • Autism spectrum • Burnout • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Asperger's syndrome (AS) • Autism spectrum • Burnout • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
115 / session115
Berlin
Online only
Maria Lara Mehlhorn
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS

Maria Lara Mehlhorn

Maria Lara Mehlhorn

(M.Sc.) Clinical Psychologist, Systemic Psychotherapist i.T.
Crisis intervention • LGBTQI • Mindfulness • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Spiritual crisis • Stress
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS
Crisis intervention • LGBTQI • Mindfulness • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Spiritual crisis • Stress
75 / session75
Hamburg
Online only
Annette Schindler
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS

Annette Schindler

Annette Schindler

Sexualtherapeut
Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Supervision for therapists • Trauma
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS
Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Supervision for therapists • Trauma
90 / session90
Berlin
In-person and Online
Dr. Elena Espil. Accredited Clinical Psychologist and Supervisor
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Dr. Elena Espil. Accredited Clinical Psychologist and Supervisor

Dr. Elena Espil. Accredited Clinical Psychologist and Supervisor

Licensed Clinical Psychologist
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • Bipolar Disorder • Depression • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Therapy for Expats • Trauma
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • Bipolar Disorder • Depression • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Therapy for Expats • Trauma
75 / session75
Buenos Aires
In-person, Online and Text
Kate Zoltak
Video Profile
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS

Kate Zoltak

Kate Zoltak

Sexologist
Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Sexuality • Solution-focused therapy
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS
Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Sexuality • Solution-focused therapy
£50 / session50
Wolverhampton
Online only
Mirjam Jung
USUALLY RESPONDS AFTER 24 HOURS

Mirjam Jung

Mirjam Jung

Accredited Clinical Psycholgist
Adjustment disorders • Anxiety • Depression • Mindfulness • Online therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
USUALLY RESPONDS AFTER 24 HOURS
Adjustment disorders • Anxiety • Depression • Mindfulness • Online therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
100 / session100
Berlin
Online only
Noémie Gmür
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS

Noémie Gmür

Noémie Gmür

Relationship & Sex Counsellor, trained to Hypnosis
Couples therapy • Hypnotherapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Trauma
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS
Couples therapy • Hypnotherapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Trauma
70 / session70
Leipzig
In-person and Online
Raíssa Val Gonçalves
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS

Raíssa Val Gonçalves

Raíssa Val Gonçalves

CBT Therapist, Clinical Psychologist
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-confidence • Social media addiction • Therapy for Expats
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Anxiety • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Self-confidence • Social media addiction • Therapy for Expats
45 / session45
Vila Sofia
Online only
Uta Rothermel
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS

Uta Rothermel

Uta Rothermel

Couples and Sex Therapist
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Couples therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Postpartum depression (PPD) • Psychotherapy • Relationships • Sex therapy
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS
ADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder • Couples therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Postpartum depression (PPD) • Psychotherapy • Relationships • Sex therapy
110 / session110
Berlin
Online only
Sadie Smith
Video Profile
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Sadie Smith

Sadie Smith

Counsellor
Addictions • Harm reduction • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Music Therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
Addictions • Harm reduction • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Music Therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Trauma Informed Care
80 / session80
Berlin
In-person and Online
Omar Nicolas
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS

Omar Nicolas

Omar Nicolas

Psychological Counsellor
Anxiety • Attachment • Couples therapy • Depression • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sexuality
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS
Anxiety • Attachment • Couples therapy • Depression • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sexuality
80 / session80
Berlin
Online only
Marie Stoy
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS

Marie Stoy

Marie Stoy

Paar- und Sexualberaterin
Attachment • Communication Disorders • Couples therapy • Divorce • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Systemic therapy
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS
Attachment • Communication Disorders • Couples therapy • Divorce • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sex therapy • Systemic therapy
100 / session100
Berlin
Online only
Christina Gesing
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS

Christina Gesing

Christina Gesing

Psychotherapist & Sex Therapist
Attachment • CBT: Cognitive behavioral therapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sexuality
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 4 HOURS
Attachment • CBT: Cognitive behavioral therapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Sexuality
143 / session143
Berlin
Online only
Vera Fleischer
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Vera Fleischer

Vera Fleischer

CA Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Heilpraktikerin (Psychotherapie)
Childlessness • Couples therapy • Gestalt therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Supervision for therapists • Transitions • Trauma
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
Childlessness • Couples therapy • Gestalt therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Supervision for therapists • Transitions • Trauma
110 / session110
Cologne
In-person and Online
Marion Linke
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Marion Linke

Marion Linke

Diplom-Psychologin
Anxiety • Crisis intervention • Depression • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
Anxiety • Crisis intervention • Depression • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy
100 / session100
Berlin
Online only
Mariecris Siebers
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS

Mariecris Siebers

Mariecris Siebers

Sexual- und Beziehungstherapeut*in
Couples therapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Transitions
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 8 HOURS
Couples therapy • Kink and BDSM Knowledgeable • LGBTQI • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Transitions
90 / session90
Berlin
In-person and Online
Ana Morin
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS

Ana Morin

Ana Morin

Couples and Sex therapist (HeilprG)
Couples therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Sexuality • Therapists for Ukraine
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 12 HOURS
Couples therapy • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Sex therapy • Sexual dysfunctions • Sexuality • Therapists for Ukraine
100 / session100
Berlin
Online only
Mia Szymanski
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS

Mia Szymanski

Mia Szymanski

(M.Sc.) Clinical Psychologist, Systemic Psychotherapist i.T, Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie
Anxiety • Couples therapy • Depression • IFS: Internal Family Systems • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Stress
USUALLY RESPONDS WITHIN 24 HOURS
Anxiety • Couples therapy • Depression • IFS: Internal Family Systems • Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy • Relationships • Stress
80 / session80
Berlin
In-person and Online

About It's Complicated

In 2019, two therapists set out to tackle a complicated problem.

The psychiatrist Carl Jung once wrote that, “Nobody, as long as he moves about among the chaotic currents of life, is without trouble”. One does not have to be a therapist, though, to realize that life is complicated. But finding the right therapist, who you can build a strong relationship with, shouldn’t have to be. This is the founding principle of It’s Complicated.Since our start, we've helped over 23,000 clients and counting, offering thousands of free crisis support hours, and built thriving therapy communities in Berlin, Amsterdam, London, Munich, and Athens.

Learn more about therapists specialising in Polyamory and Consensual non-monogamy

What is polyamory and consensual non-monogamy?

Polyamory and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) are relationship structures that involve having multiple romantic or sexual partners with the consent and knowledge of all parties involved. Unlike traditional monogamous relationships, which involve exclusivity between two partners, polyamorous and CNM relationships embrace openness, honesty, and ethical communication. Participants in polyamorous relationships may form deep emotional connections with multiple partners, while CNM may involve various forms of non-exclusive arrangements, such as open relationships, swinging, or polyfidelity. These relationship styles challenge societal norms around monogamy and offer individuals the opportunity to explore diverse expressions of love, intimacy, and connection.

 

Effective support for polyamory and consensual non-monogamy 

Effective therapy for individuals and couples navigating polyamory and CNM focuses on fostering healthy communication, addressing jealousy and insecurity, and navigating complex relationship dynamics. Therapists who specialise in polyamory and CNM provide a non-judgmental and supportive space for clients to explore their desires, boundaries, and relationship agreements. They help clients develop skills for managing jealousy, negotiating boundaries, and maintaining trust and intimacy within their non-monogamous relationships. Additionally, therapy can address societal stigma and provide validation and affirmation for individuals living alternative relationship lifestyles.

 

Find the right therapist on It’s Complicated

It may take some exploration and open communication with potential therapists to discover the approach and therapist that aligns best with your needs and preferences. Trusting your instincts and being patient with yourself throughout this process can help alleviate some of the overwhelm and lead to a smoother therapeutic journey. If you are interested in therapy to assist you in improving your life quality, It's Complicated operates in nearly 100 languages, offering both online and in-person sessions. With a diverse network of over 1,500 mental health professionals spanning 80+ countries, you can easily connect with accredited psychologists who can support you and your partners.

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